Watching this movie “A Separation” I saw a country that was so backward in the way it deals with justice but I also saw just how difficult it might be for a man such as this protagonist in his 30’s, as opposed to a woman, to exist in these countries. This film takes place in Iran.
You know, we all should be thankful for the #Metoo movement because it has brought to the light rape and mistreatment of women all over the planet. I believe it has already brought about change through awareness. But what we don’t know and don’t think about it that men are often falsely accused and even imprisoned in some countries for alleged crimes against women that may have never occurred.
I usually bypass the director segment of this show when I review foreign films. It’s not disrespect to them but rather to me, I’m not worldly wise when it comes to foreign directors. I will tell you however that this one: Asghar Farhadi is also the writer. I have huge respect for directors who wear other hats on the film. The writer is probably the most respected position I can think of the director to do.
I plead ignorance when it comes to the actors as well. The two leads are incredible though. There is no romantic tension between them but your imagination can run as wild as you want since they have been married awhile and have a daughter. The separation takes up very little of the film. I love the way they did the opening scene which is a court hearing with three people: a judge, and the couple divorcing. She pleads her case so well and he is a man of few words but his words are convincing since he wants to take care of his family. I wonder what women in general will think of this interchange. Male or female, let us know in the comments. I love hashing out a film in the comments or on Twitter. I am @thedrpodcast on Twitter by the way.
Their 11 year old daughter shines in this as well. When tears fall, I feel them. It was interesting watching her motives for staying with Dad or going with Mom. Perhaps, as we see, there is another motive we haven’t considered. This young actor does a phenomenal job. I also liked the judge. You get a chance in this film to see the way Iran’s system of justice works. One thing I really noticed was the way that both sides were so concerned in getting at the truth. You don’t see that as much in US courtroom dramas. Still, you don’t see potential for such mammoth sentences to be doled out such as in this film . I thoroughly enjoyed this foreign film and high recommend it as a courtroom drama set in Iran 9/10.
Thank God we no longer live in times where the church forced women to stay in bad marriages. If my wife ever told be she felt our marriage was unhealthy for her, I would change myself to be what she needed. I’m still in love with her after 16 years. I suppose after trying a good long while, if she still felt bad, I would talk divorce. I’m hoping it never gets there!
But this guy in the film “A Separation” seems quite willing to let his wife go. If I can’t respect my wife’s needs for vacations or even for moving out of the country, then maybe a real man lets her go? Just saying. No matter what the church says, there is a time when a couple can get to an “Unavoidable Divorce.”
When this is decided, the kids come into the conversation and then every thing is likely to get messy. In this movie, at the end they ask the daughter to choose which parent to live with. The girl is only 11! Even though the kids may be a reason to stay together, I feel they should not be the only reason. A couple should be motivated toward one another and finding a possible solution.
I hope nothing happens to me like what happens in this movie. Men sometimes have very tough decisions to make and in this film we see a dad making them. I don’t think we should get too carried away accusing men under the #Metoo umbrella when men have feeling just like women. We need to help women not be victims but we should also think of #Metoo as a group some men can fall into.
I acted the husband role this past weekend when Sarah and I celebrated our 16th anniversary. She has planned a lot of our trips and this time I tried my hand on it. There was some pressure because a year ago I planned “Ojai” and it was pretty but uneventful for sure. I wanted to do something better this year so I chose Los Angeles.
We saw a play at Cal State Fullerton, ate fondue in Irvine, Ate a Havana in the Irvine Spectrum and it was all awesome. Sarah made the hotel arrangements in LA at the LOEWS hotel. It lets out right onto Hollywood Blvd. I had planned on the Planetarium but it didn’t work out. Read up on that place before attempting! CROWDED.
I’ll close this thought by saying men and women are equal and they should share roles as much as possible. I don’t need to hear about women’s rights, I’m a believer, but the word most definitely does. I’m happy the world is getting that important message. Now, take a look at this husband in this role.